This Chap knows how to do it!!

I dont think there is anything hotter during sex than a guy fully grabbing onto your hips and taking control. I don’t mean hands just laying on the hips, but full on grabbing. If she has thicker thighs then you will get a good handful. It is not only sexy while she is on top of you, but it is even sexier when you are on top of her and take control by doing this. Sex is a battle for control, or atleast it should be sometimes. She be certain to cum from you randomly doing this and fucking the shit out of her.

Top 10 list of what she’s begging you to do and why/how:

 10. Dirty Talk – learn it, love it. Without it, you’re dead in the water… Here’s how to do it: How to Dirty Talk

9. Do naughty things in public – NOT saying you have to go all the way, but while at a friend’s dinner party pull her into a back hallway and make out. Make sure you let her know “yup, can’t have this til you get home”

8. Smack her ass – don’t make her call ya Daddy, but when you’re getting hot and heavy give her a good open handed smack on the ass. One of the best things to do with spanking is after you do it, thrust harder… believe me she’ll get to like a good spanking soon enough!

7. Rough her up during sex – We’re not talking about beating her silly, we’re talking about throwing her up against the wall during sex. Pick her up, take her around the house and fuck her in uncomfortable places. Also, place her body yourself. During sex put her in the positions you want. Don’t wait for her to move, grab her ankles and make it happen.

6. Take what you want – while she’s on the phone or in the middle of doing laundry, sneak up behind her and start undressing her. Another good one is while she’s driving reach over and begin playing with her. Going up her skirt or down her pants without her permission (even better if she resists a little) is hot as hell… as is desiring her so much that you’ll take her anywhere at anytime (Hot midnight sex). I should clarify here that I’m talking about someone who has, and is still having, consensual sex with you… I’m not telling you to take what you want from someone who doesn’t want you. Just thought I should throw that in there.

5. Pull her hair – afraid to grab those locks? Here’s how to do it: How to pull her hair and make her like it. Pulling her hair can add soooo much to a sexual experience please try this one fo sho!

4. Play with her asshole – the asshole is a ‘taboo’ place. Graze it, lick it, tickle it, rub your dick around it or stick a finger in it, whatever you feel comfortable doing, just don’t ignore this incredible passion spot. Just the idea of you touching it could be a turn on to her if she’s never been touched there before.

3. Hold her down – during sex put her arms behind her head and hold them there. Make sure your grip is hard enough to be dominating but not hurtful. You could also experiment with bondage if you feel comfortable (Bondage) just remember to use your safeword and take it easy first time around. Again, just for the psycho’s out there I’ll explain that this should be done with someone who is having consensual sex with you.

2. Tease – don’t always give it up, desire is a wonderful thing. Don’t always give her what she wants right away, tease her. If she says she wants your cock inside her, do everything but. When she’s ready to explode give it to her. If she says she wants to suck your cock pull her hair so she can’t quite get her lips around it. You catch my drift. Just don’t drag it out, give in eventually.

1. Dominate – either while kissing or making love, slide your hand around her neck and gently hold her. Squeeze gently, we’re not talking about erotic asphyxiation here (although some people dig that) I’m just talking about a heavy hand to dominate her.  The neck signifies slavery, enslave her for that evening and see where things go.

Now that you’re a badass in bed, hope you do some damn fine HappyHumping!

MsZombie says:

It depends on the time of day. Early morning sex I am good to go. Night or afternoon sex I sometimes like to take a nap after. Also if there is a temping offer and I’m tired, I’ll fucking stay up for it.

LadyLove says:

Every lady is different. Women can most often cum a few times and continue going but some ladies can only cum once or twice (if that). Pay attention to your lady and if she wants more you give it and you give it good… lol. Just so long as you don’t curl up with a blankey before you’ve pleased your ladyfriend. Remember, penis is second to pussy… cuz we said so!

Madam Cougalicious says:

Sorry to say that you are your own worst enemy.  You are causing yourself to go limp by putting too much pressure on yourself to perform.  Get your head (and I mean the one on your shoulders) out of your pants and let the one in your pants handle intimacy.  ED does not come and go.  I know this for a fact as I dated someone with ED for over three years.  If you have doubts, checkout WebMD.com for a quiz on ED.

MsZombie says:

         Ok so what I think it’s performance anxiety (which btw is part of ED), and it is not the worst thing in the world to have. A lot of guys actually get this, just most won’t admit. Hell even girls sometimes get it too but we don’t have a cock so it doesn’t show.

 Let’s think about this: Right before first time sex what is going through your head? Is it sexy thoughts or are you scared you might not live up to her past partners? Are you thinking about fucking or rejection? A lot of times this is the key factor in performance anxiety, hence the word anxiety. Fear can cause a lot of problems, including sex.

  Another thing that might be on your mind is the final goal. Sometimes you guys are so gun ho for cumming that it stresses you out and then your little buddy goes limp. Instead of focusing on busting a load, focus more on what is going on. Think more on how good and tight her pussy feels, and how great her tits look bouncing around instead of trying to get yourself to cum.

 Now there is no cure for this really, most doctors just help you refocus your attention to where it should be. You could also try more extreme methods like hypnosis, but that isn’t proven either. My biggest advice is relax. You don’t have to be an all star in bed your first time, just have fun. Trust me; most women know sex is not going to be the best first thing around.

LadyLove says:

Dear, dear Aaron. It’s all in your head buddy. I’m sorry to say that you are in control at this point. My advice to you is that you may want to try a Viagra, or one of the newer drugs, to get you past those first few nights. After that you’re golden, right? Don’t stress it anymore, not when there are drugs out there to help. You’re putting too much pressure on yourself. Women go through this too, but like MsZombie says, you can’t tell because we’re dickless. We experience by not being able to get wet or get off. Often times, sex then becomes painful can cause many other problems. So we can totally relate. Don’t forget to read some of our other articles on first time sex, or how to have sex, to give yourself the extra confidence. Also, trim your boys up real nice and give yourself more confidence.