MsZombie says:

First off it was kinda messed up that you slept with her sister. Second, lying is never a good thing to add on top of that. Now I am not saying that you have to tell her, but you will have to live with the decision. She might never find out, but the guilt might eat away at you… or you could tell her and she’ll break up with you. This is kind of one of those questions that really no matter what we say you are the one living with it. However, if you are really serious about this girl, you might want to tell her because it could always come out later.

LadyLove says:

Hey I think I saw an episode of this on Jerry Springer! Just playin, I recommend if you want to continue a relationship with her that you never tell her. Telling her is the right thing to do, but she will leave you. Not to mention the turmoil it’ll cause in her family. Unless she’s into sharing with siblings… does she live in Alabama by any chance (no lie it has the highest rate of incest, second is Alaska)? No? Then not a good idea. What you two did was morally wrong, but if the sister doesn’t want your girlfriend to find out then keep it locked up. If she’s already on bad terms with sis and you can’t go on with yourself, tell her. Just don’t expect her to ever forgive you.

LadyLove says:

Unless you’re dating a Realdoll, don’t expect her to cope too well with cheating. As if the sneaking, lying, and betraying isn’t bad enough, in this day and age you’re putting her health and well being at risk also. What if you cheat on your lady and bring home an STD? So, not only will you crush her emotionally, but you just gave her something that will effect her for the rest of her life. Bottom line, if you are absolutely set on cheating make sure you wear protection and remember Karma’s a bitch.

As far as women go when it comes to them doing the cheating, I can’t answer that from experience but I assume it is just a need that their man isn’t fulfilling, whether emotionally or physically. If you know your woman is cheating my advice, get out. Trying to patch up a relationship after in infidelity is like trying to spoon out water from a sinking boat.

MsZombie says:

As some one who has been cheated on and has cheated as well, I can tell you cheating normally eats away at you. When I used to cheat it was because I was bored and settling with some one. After a while it just got to me because I was not happy in either relationship and then I would normally break up with the guys at the same time.
On the other hand being cheated on sucks more. I normally just dumped their asses after they came out to me and told me they cheated. There has only been one where I stayed and tried to see if we could make it. I only stayed because of the timing of when it happened. It was still very hard for me to get over and trust him again,  but if you think you can get over it then try. It will always effect a relationship either way. No matter how long you are with that person. Just remember that.

Ms.Zombie says:

Yes that would be cheating. Think how you would feel seeing your girlfriend sample kissing another guy. It would probably suck and you would feel insecure about yourself. Well girls are the same way. Girls get hurt as easily as you do.

ladylove says:

Yes, yes, yes. There is no sampling or rationalizing cheating on someone. You are in a relationship, you have lead someone to believe you are committed to them, be committed or get out. Or, vocalize what’s going on. Obviously, she’s not doing it for you if you’re thinking about sampling another woman, so ask if things could be open for a while. If you do care about her just imagine how much you’d hurt her if she found out, because you know she’d DEFINATELY consider it cheating. Or, like Granny always used to say, put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Would you care if this girlfriend that you ‘love’ was sample kissing other guys?

Uh, probably!

Not to mention, how far can you really go with that faulty rationalization? What’s next, a sample screw? Shit or get off the pot.

Madam Cougalicious says:
Jon give it a rest… Are you trying to fool yourself because that’s what it sounds like to me.  We both know that the kiss will lead to sex.  If you have feelings for someone other than your girlfriend, you need to do the adult thing and communicate.  You could do the immature thing, cheat which will lead to getting busted and lots of drama.  And we all know how much guys love drama.  Grow up!!!

Ms.Zombie says:

Well to me I think it is a little insane that she is getting weird about it, however lots of women are like this. It is an insecurity thing between her and you. She might not feel as attractive as she use to be. Try being a little more lovey-dovey with her to assure her that you are only interested in her. Also talk to her about why she is affected by this relationship. Maybe she is picking up on something that might have passed you by.

Madam Cougalicious says:

Tyson.. Ever heard of a woman’s intuition?  Your wife is picking something up between the two of you.  A better question would be, how important is this friendship to you?  If the answer is very important, you have non-friendly intentions, so be honest with yourself.  If the answer is not important at all, move on.. it’s not worth your marriage. 

 ladylove says:

First of all your wife should be your best friend. If you are not having your friendly needs met by your wife then there are other issues at hand. Find out what they are and work them out. Not to mention, what kind of girl would befriend a married man and not befriend his wife? Consider your ‘just friend’ may be wishing for more because I don’t know a single respectable female who would do that.

In case you didn’t get the memo, most girls have an agenda and are pretty damn manipulative when they want to be…  it should be manditory for all men to watch The Bachelor, then they’d see what women are really like and how they can pretend to be around the poor schmuck they are trying to win over. Be cautious, is this ‘just friend’ worth losing your wife over because I guarantee you will lose her.

When you spoke those vowes you sealed the deal that she’d be your best friend forever… remember? Ditch the bitch or get ready for a one way ticket to divorce town. If you want to fix the problem, introduce them and include your wife in your plans together. Chances are if your ‘just friend’ gets along with you so well, she’d probably get along with your wife too.