Relationship Advice
Dominance vs. Controlling
So you’re having trouble with your gal pal? She wants you to be more take charge, but the more you try and keep tabs on things, the more she says you’re a controlling asshole. Sound familiar? Well, maybe not ALL of you are experiencing these particular circumstances, but no doubt it is a fine line to walk as a man in a relationship with a woman. She wants you to take the reins, but when you do then you’re not doing it right. What in the name of Lady GaGa’s strap-on is going on here?
Well I’ll tell you, but only because I feel bad for you poor Humper’s out there who are just trying to keep their ladies happy. Women want a guy in charge. We want him to pay, open doors, and make the travel arrangements. Basically, and as simply as I can put it, what we mean by ‘we want a guy who is dominant’ is that we want him to take care of us and have everything under control. Try to deny it as they may, “I’m gonna burn my bra and sing Spice Girls cuz I believe in girl power!” women are full of SHIT and want a guy who is take charge. I’m sure it all stems from daddy baggage but that’s what we want.
NOT to be confused with a man who is controlling. A controlling man is the biggest turn off since Amy Whinehouse smiled in public. Don’t know the difference? Ok, to put it simply, we don’t need to be monitored, shadowed, stalked, given permission or allowance, or anything of the like. If a girl goes out with her friends and her boyfriend calls sixty-five times to find out who she’s with, when she’s coming home, where she’s at now, and how she’s doing he is controlling… no bueno.
I should point out here that there are two types of controlling men. Those guys I mentioned that are openly controlling like the example above, and then the guys that are covertly controlling. You know, the ones who put their girlfriend’s cell phone on their plan so they can see who she’s communicating with and/or how much she’s using her phone. Also, another big one is separating your girlfriend from her friends. This is a huge red flag and THE biggest covertly controlling act a man could do. Let her be an individual… if you don’t like that about her, you are controlling.
So in case I haven’t made it clear enough, controlling and dominate are two different things. Controlling = bad. Dominate = good. Bottom line, for a man it should be instinctual to want to look after, protect, and take care of a woman as this is what men have been doing since the dawn of time. Take care of us, and take care of things FOR us, but don’t try to control us. Matter of fact, if you WANT to get rid of a gal because she’s a pain in the ass, just start breathing down her neck and looking over her shoulder… she’ll be gone in no time!
sorry for all the typos guys.. i wrote it while I was watching my dinner cook