STD Confessions

“If you know you have an STD, when should you tell your woman? What’s the best way to approach this?” (Dana 22)

Ms.Zombie says:

Here is my short but true answer. The second you feel something sexual is about to happen you need to tell her and there is no way to do it nicely either. I know you’ll be scared she is gonna leave, but she will more likely stay around if you let her know before you do something than after. I only say this because if you do it after she will have a trust issue.

LadyLove says:

Unfortunately, it is the reality of our era that everyone will eventually have something. The statistics are amazing. Approximately 1 in 4 sexually active people have an STD… how many notches you got on your belt, bucko? Let’s do the math. If you have had sex with 8 people, you’ve been exposed to STD’s on two different occasions. Things that make ya go Hhhhmmmm… Another zinger, 90% of the population over 12 yrs old has type1 herpes (oral). This can easily be transmitted to the genitals. Yea, ain’t it somethin’!

LadyLove’s gonna get a little testy here, just forewarning ya! STD’s are a huge issue with me because I’m a safety girl through and through. Everyday new humans are being born completely disease free, and every day the numbers of those infected with STD’s continue to soar. STOP THE MOTHA FUCKIN’ SPREAD PEOPLE! It’s not fucking worth a little shake off your dick. C’mon, STD’s suck ass and you don’t want to be an ass sucker! Wrap it up and get your partner tested before you touch them!

Ok, I just had to get that off my chest.

So to answer your question, Dana, the moral thing to do is to tell her before you have sex. The incredibly inconsiderate and selfish thing to do is not tell her. If you’re concerned with whether or not she’ll have sex with you if you tell her ahead of time, then you don’t have the right gal… and she has the right to make that decision.

Obviously, your decisions in life should not affect other people to the point of potentially ruining their life so it is your responsibility to A.) Educate yourself on your STD, and B.) Tell her you are infected. Keep in mind, it’s not a matter of IF, it’s a matter of WHEN you’ll pass it to her.

My suggestion, offer solutions if you do have an STD. Educate her about what it is you have, how to prevent spreading it to her, and how you feel about her. I should also say that if you have an STD it’s now your responsibility to educate yourself on treatments, protection, and health risks.

Don’t wait until she contracts it before you confess. Admitting you have an STD and you knew about it before the two of you had sex is HUGE grounds for resentment, anger, and termination! I suppose there are plenty of Humper’s out there who ignore and/or hide their STD(s), but that unfortunately doesn’t make them go away. If you value her health and safety, even if it’s someone you don’t know that well, you need to be a decent human being and fess up. Chances are if she likes you enough as a person she’ll over look it or she may just have one of her own to share.