Safe Word : How To Use Them
Have you ever had a time where things got out of hand and before you knew it someone was trying to force a dildo up your ass and when you said stop, the chick thought you were playing along? Or how bout the spanking that just hurt too damn much but that pesky gag ball was in the way of her stopping? Read on and find how to make sex kinky yet comfortable by using one little word.The term safe word is usually used when dealing with BMSM (aka bondage, submission, etc.) However, I think this should be used in all types of fetishes due to the fact that sometimes things can get out of hand and you don’t want things to be awkward. Before playing or starting whatever kink you want, set up a word that you or she can say and which will mean stop. You got that! She says the word and you stop! Not slow down, not go lighter, but STOP!
For selection on safe word I recommend not going with the obvious. For example, you should never use the words no, stop, hold on, no more…. I think you get my drift. Instead, use something that you would never, ever, ever say during sex, like taco or coffee. Also make sure this is a small word that can be said easily. Don’t have her recite the Monty Python Lumberjack song, a simple word will be fine. If there is something that would stop you from talking (like choking or forced deep throating) make a sign like a flick in the forehead. Do not tap the wrist because this could be seen as part of the role playing. You as the partner need to also be all eyes and ears to make sure you are looking out for the signs and words.
Trust me this is a must before you start. You can benefit from having a safe word so no one gets hurt!
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funny funny. but honestly coming up with the safe is tricky for me. i actually say the word taco a lot during sex. other things i’ve been known to say while i’m coming: 1) hamburger 2) t-rex 3) africa bambaataa 4) i want my baby back baby back baby back riiiiibs 5) take me to your leader, and the sexiest one is 6) call me mickey D cause i’m lovin it!
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