Relationship Advice
“How do you get your lady in the mood – especially in a long term relationship?” (Xander, 29)
LadyLove says:
I find that simple things will do it. Although we act like complicated creatures, we’re really not. Simple things like calling your lady at work and talking dirty to her, or telling her how much you want her will guarantee a good night of romping. It’s always best if you boost her self esteem… stroking her ego will definitely get her in the mood.
If you’re looking for something specific here’s an idea. Spend time and money on her. I know it sounds materialistic and I’m not by any means saying you have to spend money on her to get you some, but I’m just throwing a ‘for example’ out there. A good way to soften her up and rekindle some sexy time is to ask her out on a date. Once she accepts your invitation tell her you’re going to take her shopping for a dress and shoes to wear on the date. This is a very cute touch and a nice way to make her feel good about herself. DONT just give her your Visa ok. Physically go with her and make a fuss when she comes out of the dressing room. I’ve had feedback from a few Humper’s out there and they were surprised how much fun they had playing dress-up with their gal pals.
If you want something a little more interesting, another idea is going lingerie shopping together or even sex toy shopping.
If money is tight, or you’re a tightwad, here are a few more ideas: Cook for her and set up a picnic on the floor in a tiny corner of the house with a few candles lit, take her to the beach at night for a moonlight make out session, or when she gets home offer her a foot massage and slowly work your way into a full-body-with-a-happy-ending massage 
A little attention goes a long way with women and will put her in the mood to get it on. Feel lucky, in a long term relationship you have the advantage of knowing your woman in and out, which means you can cut loose enjoy her without worrying if she has an ulterior motive.
Ms.Zombie says:
This is always going to be an ongoing question in a relationship. I noticed the longer I am in mine, the more romantic things seem to get me in the mood. Like getting n back rub or a bubble bath. However on the same token, it turns me on when he picks me up and slams me into the wall of the parking lot to make out with me.
When you are in a long relationship I think the key to turning her on is to do something you haven’t done in a while, and by “in a while” I mean something you would have done within the first two months of you dating. Sometimes you just get into the habit of having plain sex at the same time on the same days. I guarantee if you show her random things you did, whether it be sexual or not, she will be the one ripping your clothes off.
